On your mental health
The person I’m sleeping with is convinced that my mother is a monster. He’s never met her. All he knows is that at the age of twelve, I was taking paxil, lamictal, Ritalin and 200 mg of trazodone to...
View ArticleOn the possibility of a little fundraising
I know you’re super busy, and while we are a secret treasure, we aren’t your priority. But…Forums? Also, You should have a go fund me or patreon. Okay, yes. You guys actually are my priority, but...
View ArticleOn a necessary breakdown
I was the one raped by a cop a year ago. Besides some dude that was on and off again before and after that, I haven’t really been physical with anyone. I’ve felt asexual for so long… Until last night I...
View ArticleOn externalizing distrust
My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me. I found out because he video taped the whole ordeal. We’ve decided to try and work it out, and he’s agreed to do whatever it takes to regain my trust. But here’s...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
You’ve mentioned skipping boys and dating men before. What makes a man and not a boy? Accountability. Do all dudes cheat? No. I think for my birthday, as a gift to myself, I will give up on being...
View ArticleOn holy fucking matrimony
I’m a white woman married to a black man. He goes to a black church. A year into our marriage, he still won’t bring me to his church or any church functions because he says it “might make black folks...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
BRANGELINA??? Shut up. Existential crisis over Trump becoming president. Help. Anything. Answers… please? Even a “Trump will win” truth will help calm me down because at least I don’t have to strain on...
View ArticleOn keeping your kidneys
I want to altruistically donate my kidney. What do you think I should consider? I want to question the shit out of my motives. I’m obviously going to think further about this, let it simmer in the back...
View ArticleOn another bunch of books
Your book recommendations reignited my love of reading. Thank you. Will you be posting any more recommendations soon? It is September, after all. Yes, yes. I love our September booklist tradition,...
View ArticleOn having borderline personality disorder
First off thank you. I’ve been feeling more actively suicidal lately, as opposed to my typical passive approach, and I just received your book a couple days ago, which has been a god send (don’t worry...
View ArticleOn going into labor
I’m four days past my due date and I’m becoming weirdly superstitious that the little man is waiting for you to update before he comes out. Your water just broke.
View ArticleOn taking one for the team
I’d never heard of you before today. (Saw a book review at AV Club.) Spent the last hour reading some old stuff. You seem interesting, but have a giant blind spot related to Hillary. You write as if...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
I don’t want to find enlightenment I just want to find happiness. Okay, but they’re both in the same place. My mom keeps texting me to call me a “whore.” What do I do? Block her. Would it be...
View ArticleOn more fun-sized advice
not a peep from you about wikileaks confirming everything bernie sanders supporters have been mocked for believing. classic. let me guess, you believe the leaks are fake and that the russians did it....
View ArticleOn progressive pragmatism
Your support of imperialism is very much in bad faith. I’m sorry, but you’ve lost another reader. You’re such a child. Read this amazing post by Lazenby on Hillary Clinton, the Presidency, and...
View ArticleOn the underground resistance
Are you freaking out? I’m freaking out. Yes. I am freaking out. I can’t fucking take it. I hate the news outlets for covering it like this. It’s meant to maximize our suffering. If trump wins I very...
View ArticleOn more resistance
People have lives and jobs and families. Your underground resistance movement is fucking cringeworthy and a massive waste of time. Why can’t you accept this as a victory for the anti-establishment? I...
View ArticleOn knowing better
I was one of those Jill Stein voters. I hated Hillary. I hated the DNC for their betrayal. I hated that Native American protesters were being brutalized over oil while we all stared at our television...
View ArticleOn serving in the trump administration
Dear Coquette, I was contacted by the Trump transition committee. I read your blog religiously, and I think that you’re a measured person. I really need your advice on this matter. I ‘m an...
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