On responding to a wingnut
My bro is over my head sometimes and I have no idea how to respond to this text. Can you please help me understand?? “Historically democracies die by suicide; by excesses of liberties, lack of virtue,...
View ArticleOn the friend who’s into life coaching
I have a friend who is very much into life coaching, she actually quit her job and dropped out of college to become a life coach. She has been a friend of mine for over 15 years, but I don’t think...
View ArticleOn failing in Los Angeles
If failed actors become real estate agents, and failed producers become life coaches, what do failed writers become? Bartenders.
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
I’m a high end escort. Is it wrong to sleep with men I know are married and/or cheating, even though I’m getting paid? Willfully participating in infidelity is pretty much the only ethical grey area of...
View ArticleOn swapping a little paint
I accidentally scratched the paint of another car while making a turn in a parking lot. I took a picture of the scratch and their license plate. I was going to report the incident to the local police...
View ArticleOn sapiosexuality
What do you do about someone who starts raving about how sapiosexuals are oppressed and part of the LGBT spectrum and are a real sexuality which should be respected too? Because ranting back...
View ArticleOn Paris, Beirut, and Baghdad
It really bothers me that while there were simultaneous terrorist attacks in Beirut and Baghdad at the same time as Paris, there is absolutely no publicity and/or support from the international...
View ArticleOn books about the middle east
Oh, Coquette. How can one possibly start to understand ISIS, ISIL, the Saudi regime, the Syrian crisis—hell, the entire Middle East as something more than a bewildering source of violence? I read The...
View ArticleOn booty call 101
I’m in my mid thirties and have just become single for the first time since college. Last night I ran into a guy I used to work with. He offered to buy me a drink so we went to a bar and chatted, and...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
He has a girlfriend, but we chat & meet all the time. I know I shouldn’t, but he makes me laugh like no one else. Please tell me to quit it. Quit it. Do you think open relationships aren’t...
View ArticleOn my view of religion
How can you say ISIS practices Islam when they don’t even pray in the right direction? When they go against the laws forbidding violence and forcing people to join Islam? I think you have a very...
View ArticleOn common fucking decency
Coquette, I agree with your views on organized religion. My question is, how can we separate our disapproval of the belief system from racism and discrimination against its believers? It’s as easy as...
View Article#YouKnowWhoYouAre
For those who follow me on twitter (and all of you should, I’m fucking hilarious) you may have noticed that every so often, I’ll tweet out a bit of advice and end it with, “You know who you are.” Those...
View ArticleOn hateful comments
Lady-Coke: Speaking of your twitter, I just wanted to say that you are really good at letting people’s hateful comments just roll off like it’s no big deal. People say some pretty fucked-up shit to...
View ArticleOn a physicist with a secret
I am a physicist working at a fairly high end university researching fusion and renewable energy sources. Some of us here including myself recently made a discovery that, upon entering the light of the...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
Your view on Syrian refugees coming to America? We should be accepting 100,000 instead of 10,000. Is 22 young? I feel like my life is over. Your childhood is over. That’s what you’re feeling. Your life...
View ArticleOn an alcoholic prick
I was talking to a friend about why I cut an “alcoholic prick” out of my life. She responded that it was unfair of me to call him a “prick” because he is an alcoholic and alcoholism is an illness and...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
What do you think about Stoya’s accusation that James Deen raped her? I absolutely believe her, and I’m not the least bit surprised. The guy I’ve been casually been sleeping with was sexually abused as...
View ArticleOn more fun-sized advice
How do I stop being a pretentious douche? Cultivate your personality instead of curating your identity. Convince me not to stay with a guy who (mid-intercourse) removed the condom I asked him to wear...
View ArticleOn red flags
So, based on your descriptions, I’m between a red flag and a yellow flag. (26/f). I know why- I’m extremely insecure etc…but, now that I am labeled as an orange flag, what am I supposed to do? Should I...
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