On fun-sized advice
How would you define culturally white?Think of “culturally white" as America’s default setting.What is the American dream?A hegemonic marketing ploy.Why is there such a big disconnect between my...
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why do people refuse to admit that sexism is genderless? is it because they’re hopelessly biased?Whoa there, fucknuts. Sexism isn’t genderless in a patriarchy.The only male’s who seem sexually...
View ArticleOn taking criticism
My professor said some really inappropriate things to me. Nothing sexual. I’m a girl, he’s a gay man, so there you have it. I asked him for help on a novel I’ve been working on for over a year now, and...
View ArticleOn music for a broken heart
Just got dumped. You have excellent taste in music and nothing I’ve got is scratching the itch (besides Signs/Bloc Party but I would rather not wear that gem out). 5 songs I should listen to while I...
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On telling him to fuck off
I had a friends with benefits relationship that wasn’t too enjoyable for me. I honestly felt disgusted when he kissed me, cried once during sex and at the time hated my body. I want to pick myself up...
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On four years as the other woman
I’ve been fucking someone with a girlfriend for four years. Apparently, he loves us both. It’s fun when we’re together until we’re not, then I’m left to think of him with her. How do I regain control...
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On fun-sized advice
Should we wager on when Miley becomes the next Amanda? I’ll guess two years.No. Not cool, dude. Don’t conflate Miley’s tacky branding strategy with Amanda’s legitimate mental disorder.Any advice on...
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On syria
What should the West be doing re: Syria at this point? The Assad regime is awful, yet the rebels are not much better. Seems like such a lose-lose.Should? Fuck should. The west is gonna do what the west...
View ArticleOn a pregnant teenager
I’m writing this for a friend who is in need of some of your wit and wisdom. The girlfriend he’s been seeing since spring and living with for the past couple of months discovered that she was pregnant...
View ArticleOn dad's ashley madison profile
I was printing something on my dad’s computer and saw an email notification about activity on an AshleyMadison.com profile. The username was definitely his. My parents seem relatively happy and have...
View ArticleOn the harm in flirtation
does instant messaging with a man twice my age who’s married to a wife i really admire and who just had an adorable baby make me feel nervous and guilty because i know he and i mutually think one...
View ArticleOn a "pregnant" teenager
When I wrote the pregnant teenager post I probably should have mentioned that he actually made them an appointment to go to Planned Parenthood, and she just refused to go. But he said he is giving her...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
Is fame a drug?Nope. Fame is a disease.Is there a difference between Miley twerking and Eric Clapton playing delta blues music?Yes. Even within the context of cultural appropriation, there is a...
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On being spineless over a skull
For a very long time I’ve wanted a sugar skull tattoo. But for all the research I’ve done, and all the personal meanings the symbol has, I’m still a white Jewish woman and I worry to get such a tattoo...
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On a survivor, not a victim
How do I accept that I was abused and raped without becoming a victim? I’ve been told my whole life that no one likes victims, and I blame myself for what happened, anyway. I just want to move on, but...
View ArticleOn a dozen years later
Today someone told me that America should get over 9/11. They said that other countries have suffered bigger losses, which is completely true. I do think that the media needs to stop masturbating to...
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On a bunch of books
I need some new books, and you are way overdue for another reading list. Pretty please!Okay, okay. What is it about September? I’ve been getting this question at least once a day for a while now.I...
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On nationalistic pride
Are you proud to be an American?No. I have a deep appreciation for the privileges my citizenship affords me, but I am highly suspect of the tribal nature of the human condition and I consider...
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On banging without the bible
Getting turned on freaks me out.My boyfriend and I aren’t having sex for faith-related reasons, but we’re not the sheltered religious types. We talk about sex and fetishes and fantasies and what have...
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On influence
you don’t deserve the influence you have gotten over people’s opinions and decisions. you should stop. these poor people that come to you are lost and want to make a god out of you - they actually...
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