On being worthy of friendship
You answered a question about fixing your own broken-ness and not allowing broken people to burden you anymore by deciding you’re worthwhile. I get that in theory but I’m a people-pleaser all the way...
View ArticleOn Hillary
Hillary is a a liar hiding a hawkish, plutocratic agenda behind women’s issues and gun control. She may even be worse than Obama on foreign policy issues. I remember you saying that you supported...
View ArticleOn relationship seppuku
You recently answered a question on the “cut-off date” for someone you’re not in love with. I am in love with my partner. However, I cried when I read the guideline questions you responded with (needs...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
Are feelings rational? Feelings are emotions that have come into awareness. It’s not that feelings are irrational. It’s just that rationality doesn’t apply to feelings. Rationality applies to thoughts....
View ArticleOn house of cards
Getting pumped up for HOC Season four. I’m re-watching all the episodes up to now, and I’m CONVINCED at this point that Frank is a homosexual who only has sexual relationships with women he can exploit...
View ArticleOn a mysterious tattoo
Hey, I commissioned some art from a friend for a project that ended up going nowhere, and then fell out of touch with this friend. I’ve got all the rights to it, paid in full, but recently I’ve been...
View ArticleOn almost but not quite
I’m having trouble committing to the guy who wants forever with me because I can’t stop thinking about the “almost but not quite a relationship” I had before. I want some space but I’m 90% sure the...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
I keep getting this fleeting empty feeling inside my chest. I’m not even sure if it’s emptiness or dread. It feels like when a coke comedown hits although I haven’t done hard drugs in years. It lasts a...
View ArticleOn writing a bunch
You’ve been writing a bunch lately. I’m certainly not complaining. It’s been great. I’m curious if it has to do with your move? Did you change your profession? Do you have more free time because you’re...
View ArticleOn your pussy
This is a painfully embarrassing question but one that I have needed to ask since I ‘developed’ and my best friend shamed me. My inner labia hang about a centimetre and my outers are tiny, I feel...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
are politics + economics just our egos fighting each other over who is right? Nope. Politics and economics are just our species fighting over who gets the limited resources. I have an opportunity to...
View ArticleOn your hot boyfriend
He’s gorgeous and I’m average and I know it shouldn’t bother me, but it does. The thing is, he’s always been the one to pursue me, and I’ve been the one to pull away. I’m smart and accomplished and...
View ArticleOn mutual infidelity
While I was on vacation with my friends I cheated on my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years and fooled around with a guy I met. I came clean and he forgave me, but a week ago, he told me that after I confessed,...
View ArticleOn smoking your problems away
My boyfriend is making me a chain smoker. Not literally obviously. I just can’t tolerate an hour with him without a cigarette. We’ve been together almost 3 years and we live together. I love him and...
View ArticleOn books about the police
Can you recommend a good book on this “fuck the police” stuff? I want to look deeper into this. Rise of the Warrior Cop by Radley Balko If you only read one book about police in America, this is the...
View ArticleOn national football
The Super Bowl for me means the trails and museums are less crowded, a great time to run errands, etc., and then I recently read an article revealing the spike in human trafficking in host cities to...
View ArticleOn falling helplessly
I had a one night stand with a co-worker after the company Holiday party. I always thought he was cute and I was very drunk. He came back to my place and at first it was just about the sex but then we...
View ArticleOn controlling vs feeling
How do you know when to control your emotion versus just feel them? I know you’ve mentioned both, but they almost sound like contradictory methods of coping…? If an emotion has come into awareness...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
Where’s the line between empathy and enmeshment? Empathy and enmeshment aren’t really on a spectrum, but what I think you’re really asking is, “at what point does my concern for others become an...
View ArticleOn your boyfriend’s boner
We’re 3 years in, long distance for half of it, we got through it, and I moved in four months ago. Our relationship is loving, respectful, fun, adventurous, silly. However, he’s recently had trouble...
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