On being an artist
What’s the difference between an artist and a craftsman? I’ve always wanted to be an artist but my dad is adamant that artists are born, not made, and the most I’d ever be is a crafts person, which is...
View ArticleOn a dirty whore
I’m a stripper, and I recently had a guy I’ve been sleeping with say I can come over after work, but only if I “shower off all the lapdances first.” I ride my bike a lot, sometimes to work, and I asked...
View ArticleOn a nickel's worth of free therapy
My therapist threatened to leave me because I frustrated her too much. I kept skipping sessions because of my inability to get out of bed due to my depression and drinking and she told me…through...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
I fell in love with my best friend and its not working out. What now?Disaster.I’m a nine. He’s a four. Why is he blowing this off?Because you act like you think you’re a nine and he’s a four.How do I...
View ArticleOn splitting the rent
I earn $35,000 a year. He earns $74,000 a year. We’re currently searching for a new apartment after spending 4 years in different cities. He wants to split the rent 50/50; I would be more comfortable...
View ArticleOn taking action
This may sound weird but reading your column over the past few years gave me enough courage to file a restraining order against my deranged fuck buddy who tried to break in to my house last night. I...
View ArticleOn premature election issues
Asking as a 20-something woman who has voted in every election since Obama Round 1: can you sell me on Hillary? I try to stay informed on all the current political events but there’s so much crap to...
View ArticleOn porn
Why do I have a problem with porn? I didn’t used to think about it but the more I read about it the more I feel uncomfortable with it, like men are getting off over women being degraded and it makes me...
View ArticleOn an emotional masochist
A friend of mine has been in a relationship for 8 years and he recently told me he’s been unhappy for the last 4. His girlfriend broke up with him last week (she has been unhappy too) and moved out,...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
Are you down with Elizabeth Warren?Fuck yeah, but not as a presidential candidate. Ideally, I’d like to see Hillary appoint her Treasury Secretary in the new administration and then sit back and watch...
View ArticleOn bruce jenner
Did you watch the Bruce Jenner interview? Will you watch his tv series when it comes out? Please tell me what to think about all that. Out of respect for the transgender community, I bit my tongue on...
View ArticleOn a contender
He’s a twenty-nine year old business owner with an enormous personality, well traveled, well read too. He’s incredibly nice but he’s ring leader of his wild circus of asshole friends. I’m a...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
I don’t get why you’re down with Hillary (as opposed to grudgingly accepting her). I thought of you as more radical than that.I’m actually down with Bernie Sanders. He’ll get my money, time, and...
View ArticleOn a sexting conspiracy
I read your advice blog all the time and recently used it yesterday when I found sexts from another woman to my husband on my home computer. I want to forward you the email bc it has incriminating...
View ArticleOn boredom and chaos
I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years and I love him so much. He’s truly my partner in everything. We adopted a dog recently and we’re moving into our own place in a few months. Everything is...
View ArticleOn getting a raise
I have a boring adulthood question for you. My rent is going up, I need to buy a car this summer, and my hourly wage is not keeping up. I work at a large university; the positions are very structured...
View ArticleOn a future lawyer
I’ve been accepted to Stanford, Northwestern, Columbia, and Georgetown Law schools; as well as Sandra Day O'Connor at ASU (my sure thing, in case I didn’t get into any of the others). Money isn’t a...
View ArticleOn a fuckboy
Well I like a guy who initiated our talks, got me to fall for him, and then went back saying that he cannot continue the relationship because he is still in love with his ex, who by the way is married...
View ArticleOn boredom and chaos
I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years and I love him so much. He’s truly my partner in everything. We adopted a dog recently and we’re moving into our own place in a few months. Everything is...
View ArticleOn getting a raise
I have a boring adulthood question for you. My rent is going up, I need to buy a car this summer, and my hourly wage is not keeping up. I work at a large university; the positions are very structured...
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