On pressure to have kids
My husband and I have been together 10 years, married for 3 of them. Even before we were married, but especially after, there has been a lot of pressure for us to have kids. Coquette, we just don’t...
View ArticleOn fighting it and winning
What ever happened to the girl who was kicked out of college for saying she was raped? I keep her in my prayers, so please let us know if you hear back!Yes. I’ve kept in touch with her these past few...
View ArticleOn finding a balance
I got an interview to Yale school of art and then got denied. I got denied from my back up school too. Now I have no clue what I should do with my year. I’m really tired of working my shitty day job...
View ArticleOn the ripple effect
You are a giant fucking asshole, bitter to the core. I agree with your existential nihilism, but don’t put your self-hatred on everyone else who asks a fucking question, bitch.This was the immediate...
View ArticleOn why art school kids are annoying
I’m curious what your problem with art school is. I’m aware that a BFA isn’t really for everybody (or sometimes, even worse, is falsely made for everybody), but I’m unclear as to where your disgust for...
View ArticleOn mixing friendships and relationships
Up until a month ago, my guy best friend and I (a girl) talked all day, every day - we were best buds. A few weeks ago we stopped talking, and I would ask why, and he would ignore the fact that we...
View ArticleOn the peace corps
Why do you see the Peace Corps as the primary direction the art school reject should take in light of the recent criticisms the Peace Corps has faced in the last few years for perpetuating poverty and...
View ArticleOn calling it a day
People are really up in arms about this art school bullshit. Why do people take everything you say so personally?Nah, nobody really gives a shit. Sometimes on Friday afternoons I like to fuck around,...
View ArticleOn a capitalism reading list
"We are surrounded by capitalist tools. The trick is not using them for their intended purpose." Would you make a reading list based on this, please?Sure. Here’s a trio of easily accessible books that...
View ArticleOn irony and empty gestures
It’s a bit rich that your book recommendations about anti-capitalism all link to an Amazon sales website, which is one of the most capitalistic current ventures cutting the legs out from independent...
View ArticleOn brutal fucking truth
How do you get over a guy you never wanted to be broken up from? We had been together for five years. I know our relationship needed to change. There were communication issues and some lack of...
View ArticleOn after she finally left him
Do you know what happened to the woman who was beaten by her fiancée?Thank you so much for that post. I showed it to my best friend and it finally gave her what I could never give her: the courage to...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
How is it possible to have amazing sex with a man who doesn’t attract me at all intellectually and whose body I find repulsive?You’re just having a little hot ugly pig sex. It happens. Try not to...
View ArticleOn more fun-sized advice
Belle Knox: feminist trailblazer or starry eyed idiot?Neither. She’s just a sex worker getting a college education. It’s really not that big a deal, folks. Happens all the time.What do you think of the...
View ArticleOn conscious uncoupling
What do you think of “conscious uncoupling”? Is is just an overly-spiritualized way of saying that you should look to what you’ve learned from your partner when you’ve out grown them and/or your...
View ArticleOn the edges of relationships
A guy, a friend, who I’ve had a peripheral crush on for a year and a half is breaking up with his long-term girlfriend. What is the most respectful way to mention “hey, remember that time we joked...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
I’m almost in tears writing this. What are we going to do when Bill Murray dies?Don’t worry. When he dies, on his deathbed, he’ll receive total consciousness. So, he’s got that goin’ for him, which is...
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On the helpseeking experiences of men
How is that abused men are revictimized by DV hotlines and shelters (The Helpseeking Experiences of Men Who Sustain Intimate Partner Violence: An Overlooked Population and Implications for Practice by...
View ArticleOn fun-sized advice
What’s your favourite part of Coachella?It’s different every year, but there’s always a magic hour, usually on Saturday evening just after the sun sets when the air cools and everyone catches a second...
View ArticleOn living in sin
How do I break it to my religious, highly conservative parents that I’m moving in with my boyfriend? Just to provide some context: they got me a “purity ring” for Christmas when I was fourteen, and...
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